Bhagavad Gītā Chapter Three verse 34
indriyasyendriyasyārthe rāgadveṣāu vyavasthitāu |
tayor na vaśam āgacchhet tāu hyasya paripanthināu ||
Commentaries and Reflections
Commentary by TKV Desikachar:
Each person has two forces Rāga and Dveṣa.
They are there to serve you, not you them.